Comparisons. Unfortunately, we all do it. Whether or not its intentional or it just happens. It’s hard to avoid, but it can be toxic as.
We compare ourselves in an attempt for us to supposedly feel better.
At least I am not as evil as her!
At least I didn’t make the same mistake as them
At least I am better than them.
We also do it to make ourselves worse…
Why wasn’t I chosen for the new position? I thought I was as good as they were.
If only I was taller, smarter, prettier, richer, popular… as them
How come they get that and I don’t…I wish I was more like them.
Not great examples..but I hope you get my point. In a round about way, and as most motivational self-help hippy guidebooks would probably say…
Just compare yourself to who you were before.
But I mean it doesn’t always work…What if you were fatter now than before? What if you were pretty and then something happened and you aren’t considered pretty anymore?
I am not even sure what this post was even supposed to be about. Some sort of ramble about comparing yourself to others being bad. I think we should try avoid it as much as we can. Just sort of see it as, oh okay…I didn’t get the promotion…maybe I am meant to do something else…or perhaps it’s a sign I should look for a new job…if they seem to be overlooking me… I am determined to finish this post on a slightly positive note…
If one door closes, then another is probably about to open…we just have to stop focusing on the closed door…and realise it may have have to be closed to open the way for new opportunities.
Three days to D-Day ….. ;o